being tired most of the time,
having trouble falling asleep or staying asleep,
finding yourself irritable over small inconveniences,
missing school or social events often due to illness and
worrying about anything and everything.
Do you feel like Darcy the driven car? If you do, you know by experience the difference between driven or called.
I need to confess to you, I said to Dick the other day, “why do I feel so driven?” I don’t work outside the home, I have plenty of time on my hands, so it surprised me when those words came out of my mouth.
Do you run from one activity to another and you can’t catch your breath? Busyness makes you feel you are doing something.
Much of my busyness comes from doing research. I research about anything and everything and get lost in doing research, it keeps me busy.
But like me, I bet you can’t explain, what it is you do that matters. Does that sound like your life?
Take a few minutes, relax, chill out and look at whether you are acting like a driven, or a called person.
In his book, “Ordering Your Private World,” Gordon MacDonald describes the characteristics of stress, driven people (who often are doing good things).
7 Signs You Are A Driven Person:
1. “Usually abnormally busy. They are usually too busy for the pursuit of ordinary relationships in marriage, family, or friendship, or even to carry on a relationship with themselves–not to speak one with God…
They operate on the precept that a reputation for busyness is a sign of success and personal importance, thus they attempt to impress people with the fullness of their schedule.”
2. “Most often, only gratified by accomplishment. They have little patience for or appreciation of the process leading to accomplishing something. The only worthwhile things are those that produce visible results.”
3. “Preoccupied with attaining the things that symbolize accomplishment. Their goal is the ongoing acquisition of those things that represent power and status.”
4. “Usually pursuing something that is “bigger” and “more successful” than their last endeavor. Tends to have a limited regard for integrity. Shortcuts to success become a way of life. Because the goal is so important, they drift into ethical shabbiness.”
5. “Often characterized by limited or undeveloped people skills. Because their eyes are upon goals and objectives they rarely take note of the people about them unless they can be used for the fulfillment of one of the goals.”
6. “Usually highly competitive. They see everything in life as a win-or-lose game. Winning provides the evidence the driven person desperately needs that he is right, valuable, and important.”
7. “Often typified by “a volcanic force of anger,” which can erupt any time he senses opposition or disloyalty. This anger can be triggered when people disagree, offer an alternative solution to a problem, or even hint at just a bit of criticism.”
Gordon MacDonald goes on to say, “when you live as a driven person, you are listening to your culture and your fears, not to God.”
But from experience, I know how easy it is to slip into drivenness. “I look inside my private world,” MacDonald confesses, “and discover that almost every day I have to wrestle with whether I will be a (driven or a called person).
Once I admitted, yes, I’m a driven person. My next question was is there help? Can a driven person change?
The Good New Is Yes!
“Most certainly,” says, MacDonald. “It begins when such a person faces up to the fact that he is operating according to drives and not calls.”
Like me, I’m sure you want to live your calling, not your drivenness. Keeping your focus on what you’d like to see happen is the key.
It’s time to leave your driven life behind and reach forward to living your called life.
Stayed tuned for your practical plan for living as called, not as a driven person.